Raising Grandchildren in the Digital Age: Understanding Social Media and Setting Healthy Limits
Grandparents stepping into the parenting role once again are navigating a world that looks very different from the one they raised their own children in —especially when it comes to technology. Social media, online gaming, smartphones, and constant screen time are the new normal for today’s kids. But what do you do when you’re unfamiliar with the platforms and worried about keeping your grandchild safe?
The good news is you don’t have to be a tech expert. What matters most is understanding the basics, staying curious, and building open communication with your grandchild.
Why Social Media Matters
Social media is where many kids connect with friends, express themselves, and stay up to date with trends. Platforms like TikTok, Instagram, Snapchat, and YouTube are hugely popular among young people. However, they also come with risks like exposure to mature content, cyberbullying, and too much screen time. Knowing a little about each social media platform can go a long way. For example:
TikTok features short videos, often funny or creative, but sometimes inappropriate for younger viewers.
Snapchat lets users send photos and messages that disappear quickly, making it harder for adults to monitor.
YouTube offers a wide range of videos, from educational to entertainment, but also includes content not meant for children.
Setting Limits Without Starting a Fight
Grandparents often walk a fine line between offering protection and avoiding the appearance of being overly critical or controlling. The key is creating clear, consistent boundaries and involving the grandchild in setting them. Here are some simple strategies:
Set Tech-Free Zones and Times
- No phones at dinner
- Devices off for one hour before bedtime
- No screens in bedrooms overnight
Use Parental Controls
- Apple Screen Time (for iPhones/iPads) and Google Family Link (for Android) let you set time limits and block inappropriate content.
- Apps like Bark, Qustodio, or Net Nanny monitor usage and alert you to potential problems.
Make a Family Media Agreement
- Sit down together and agree on rules for screen time, online behavior, and app downloads.
- Use a simple contract like the ones available at www.commonsensemedia.org or screensanity.org
Keep the Conversation Open
Technology should never replace your relationship. Check in regularly:
- Ask what your grandchild enjoys online.
- Encourage them to talk if they see something upsetting.
- Show interest, not judgment. You might say, “Can you show me how that app works?” or “What do you like about this game?” That curiosity builds trust and makes it more likely your grandchild will come to you if something goes wrong.
Learn Together
You don’t have to do it all at once. Take it step by step:
- AARP, CyberWise, and Common Sense Media all offer simple guides.
- Ask a tech-savvy friend, librarian, or even your grandchild to help you explore.
- Consider joining a support group for grandparents raising grandchildren. Many meet online or through local churches, libraries, senior centers, or family success centers. Connect with www.kinkonnect.org by emailing or calling us for help finding a group: kinkonnect@warmline.org or (1-877-554-5463)
❤ You’ve Got This !
Raising grandchildren in the digital world can feel overwhelming, but you are not alone and you are more capable than you think. By staying informed, setting healthy boundaries, and keeping communication open, you’re giving your grandchild the tools they need to grow up safely and responsibly in a connected world.